If you ever partied too hard in college, stressed a bunch, ate badly, and scraped through final exams, only to come home for break, completely flake out and sleep for a week while your mom coddled you back to health...
Then you kinda know what's happening right now to most of us.
Our bodies are breaking down the moment they know they’re in a safe place to heal.
We've all been hyper-vigilant for 14+ months (not that life pre-pandemic was a cakewalk, but still)...
And now that we're tentatively stepping into daylight, rather than sprinting to the top of the stairs and doing our best Rocky impersonation, we're stumbling, collapsing, and in some cases, feeling worse than we did in the thick of it.
At least back then, we knew we had to be strong for ourselves and others.
Laura van Dernoot Lipsky, the founder and director of the Trauma Stewardship Institute, put it thusly in a recent Atlantic article:
"the quiet moments after adrenaline fades and normalcy resumes may be unexpectedly punishing...People put their heads down and do what they have to do, but suddenly, when there’s an opening, all these feelings come up.
As hard as the initial trauma is, it’s the aftermath that destroys people...If you’ve been swimming furiously for a year, you don’t expect to finally reach dry land and feel like you’re drowning."
Because let’s face it, we never got the VE Day ticker tape parades––no sailors kissing dames in mid-town, no little people singing Ding Dong the Witch is Dead.
We’re ending with a wimpy whimper, definitely not with a cathartic bang. (the cathartic banging is forecast for a few months from now, see also: hot vaxx summer)
We've noticed this limping across the finish line in a specific group of people we didn't expect––leaders.
And not middle-manager corporate types––real leaders.
Strong hearted, deeply committed resonant humans––doing their best to scout ahead for their people, to rappel into the Screaming Abyss of the future, and to come back again and again to their community, with good news, positive re-frames, and hope.
And it's those folks, we're noticing, that are dropping like flies right now.
It's the first time in over a year, they've even had the luxury to check themselves for bullet holes and broken bones. Many are finding themselves a few quarts shy of fully topped up.
So, why write this now?
Firstly, it’s something we’re noticing in our lives and relationships, and figured if we were, you might be too. Consider that part a PSA: Healing the Healers.
As the old campfire hymn goes…
"Reach out your hand if your cup be empty
If your cup is full, may it be again
Let it be known there is a fountain
That was not made by the hands of men"
Second, we are going to be doing this ourselves, this summer, at Flow Camp in the mountains, where there be fountains.
It’s too important not to.
While we have this break in the clouds (as the storm still rages around the world) it’s critical that we defrag our nervous systems, reclaim our highest vitality, and re-member––ourselves and what’s ours to do.
That follows the three parts of the book Recapture the Rapture identically––Choose Your Own Apocalypse (i.e. situational assessment), Alchemist Cookbook (i.e. DIY toolkit for healing, inspiration and connection), and Ethical Cult Building (i.e. architecting anti-fragile community).
We’re building on it when we gather.
If you need someplace to lay your burden down after being strong for friends, family and community...
If you know in your bones you need to get off the fence and start making practical decisions for a more resilient future...
And if you sense it’s an "All of us or None of us" kinda game we’re easing into...
That’s what we’re gonna be creating together, in person, in community, in nature, and culture.
––> Apply for Flow Camp this summer (July 25-30th)
And if you’re game to start playing the Infinite Game, who knows, we might even throw the switch on some real magick ;)
So if this calls to you, join us for a Midsummer Week’s Dream.
We’re 100% focused on leading leaders, on healing healers, and on creating with creators.